How A Good Woman Can Find A Good Man

Yesterday, I attended a wedding anniversary. The couple decided to celebrate their 14th. First of all I thought, "Why the 14th? That's not a designated year you would celebrate," I thought. This couple really did a nice job by renting a beautiful location starting with appetizers and cocktails. After about an hour, we went into the ballroom to a full course dinner and guess what? This event was his idea which he paid for in full. There were no designated seating and we did not have to make any donations or pay for the event. Yes, some people do charge their children, friends or relatives to put on this type of event for a wedding anniversary. Regardless, as the evening continued you could see the reason we were really there. That woman truly loves her man and that man adores his wife. Based on this love they will find any date, time or location to celebrate their love. No, this is not some overly emotional story with no meaning or content. So please, continue to read.

I watched this couple as they expressed how they can be in a room alone and crack themselves up in laughter. Even my daughter agreed that when she visits this couple, they will be in the room by themselves just laughing together as if they have a room filled with other people and a comedian. What can we learn from this couple? That laughter should definitely be a part of a man and woman's relationship because it truly makes them closer. I watched them as they danced like two teenagers on a first date. Nothing fancy, but just the kind of closeness that every woman desires. No, I am not jealous nor did I experience some deceitful desire. I am writing about this couple because as a God fearing woman, I love to see a man living up to his role as husband and father. At the same time, I saw a woman subjecting herself to her man with pride. Yes, I did say that bad word, "subjecting." I have learned over the years after careful study of God's word the Bible, that being in subjection is no big deal because all of us are servants and in subjection to our Grand Creator and his precious son, Jesus. All of us have a head that we are subjected to. The only one that does not have a head is Almighty God.

The reason I titled this article concerning a good man, is that there were plenty good men watching this event unfold. Men that are fine examples as heads of their household. Men who serve as spiritual leaders in the christian congregation. Fathers of children who do not have sex until they are married. Men who study the Bible with their families and work hard to support them. These qualities may sound like something in a fairytale. This is the type of man that woman is married to that celebrated their 14th anniversary. These men listen to their wives, have discussions with their children and show respect for the family arrangement. No, they are not perfect but live their lives based 1Timothy 3:1-7 . The counsel there is taken literally. These men love Jehovah God, his son Jesus Christ, their wives, children and neighbors. They teach their families to go out just as Jesus did and tell others about the wonderful promises for our future based on God's Kingdom. What a man, what a man, what a mighty good man!

Now, the question is, can we find a good man and is a good man hard to find? Ladies, it truly depends on where you are looking. If you look in the cess pool of men, that is exactly what you will find is a man that lives in the cess pool. His mind constantly focuses on sex especially before marriage. He will come over as one woman said on recent radio program, "My man comes over to have sex with me but he cannot shovel my snow." Many women complain that their men do not take care of their children financially. Some men curse at their women calling them degrading names. Ladies, Almighty God tells us completely how we should be treated as wives and mothers of their children. Learning to love yourself enough to know that you deserve the respect and appreciation of that man. When we don't hold them accountable to these standards in the Bible, they can treat us any way they want. Remember, a true God fearing man is a good man. If a man claims that he fears and loves God, he will not cheat on his wife. Tiger Woods may need to learn that the only way he can truly remain faithful to his wife, is that he learns the truth from the Bible and this will set him free. I hope the best for Tiger but if he really wants to stop his sex addiction and become a good father, husband and head for his family, he must read God's word and apply it. We must also remember that if we have found a good man, we must be a good woman who also applies our creator's principles at Proverbs 31, where a woman watches over the "goings-on of her household." Yes, it is not easy to find a good man but if you are a good God fearing woman, half the work is done. If you also are learning to love yourself as the greatest love of all, this will help you search for what is best for you. Once again, to find a good man you must be a good woman and stay out of the man cess pool.